One of my coaches once challenged my un-excitement or even boredom that I explained experiencing throughout my life.
Whether that lack of excitement was shortly after I started at a new job, got a promotion, living abroad, a new relationship or trying a new skill.
Somewhere rather soon, I started to lose interest and feel as if I was stuck, robbed from my perceived safety and security blanket to be free and just be me and enjoy life the way I wanted to.
When challenged by my coach what was behind that, I had the eye opening moment. I realized that for some of that boredom and lack of excitement it was because I had been living my whole life in stress mode, “freeze-fight-flight or fawn” mode….my survival mode.
In order to feel “normal” I needed a certain amount of stress, fear and depression.
As soon as things seemed safe, loving, calm, easy, regular, structured, organized or anything of that nature, I started to (unconsciously) resist and look for ways to shake things up, so I could go back to my comfort zone.
A comfort zone that was not serving me at all, yet I did not know any better. My whole life I had been living in that state, the state of surviving. Always braced for any danger that might come my way.
I soon realized this was not the way I wanted to continue living, it was surviving, not true living. And so I worked on making that change so I could Thrive.
Would love to hear your thoughts on this. Did you have a “a-ha moment”, is this you? Or is this how you used to be too? What helped you make that shift?
Let’s Thrive in 2022!!!! We know we can survive so let’s do it!
Yes!!! That is so right. Got this!