Still Blessed

Wow, hello to you all! How have you been?

It has been such a long time, I just went back to look up when my last post was… beginning of May 2019! That is a good 8 months. And a lot has happened, a lot! And to be honest, I am now today, in my week of hibernation and isolation, so looking forward to share with you what exactly went down.

In this blogpost I will be giving an overal update. And in the coming posts I will elaborate more on the key subjects I find that are important for me now.

I have been on sick leave for I believe nearly 18 months now. I would have never thought that when I first got home that it would take this long to recover. The extent of this journey is way more, way deeper rooted then I could have ever imagined. To be fair, I learned that it was a build up of at least 35 years of pain, denial and ignoring. There is no quick fix for that long a negative input. So although this journey has been nothing but easy, I believe it is a transformational one, a very necessary one!

As you would have known I had been having my weekly therapy sessions and I even started doing some work. Not my regular work, but “low intensity” work so I would be able to put more structure in my life, get back to the swing of things and to be honest, get out more. Now my therapy has gone from weekly to biweekly. And I think we are on our way to rounding things up. So that is good news! On top of that I have been going to work more regularly and even switched positions to a place where I am more stimulated in various areas. I am moving around more, amongst a lot of people, sounds and visual stimuli. The first week was challenging, but I managed to get the hang of things and now in general I am doing well.

At home things are pretty well and stable. Surely in comparison. My diet has improved a lot. Cooking is something I got to enjoy again and something I use to help me get out of a funk. Working out and going on my walks are still areas where I could surely improve. More so when I am not feeling well. I have learned a lot about my condition and the mind in general through reading, YouTube and the different therapies I have gotten. The most important thing is that I understand that I have to change my thoughts, habits and routines in order to change my course of life. I cannot go back to the life as I knew it, that will be the death of me. This is the most certain thing that I know, if not the only.

Today, as I briefly mentioned in my intro, I am not doing my best. To be completely transparant, I haven’t left the house in 4 days. I haven’t felt like this in a very long time. I feel paralyzed, numb. I know better, I know what I need to do, but I just cannot get myself to do the things that I know help me get back on track. There have been some changes, I have been working more, therapy is about to end. Besides that, at times I still feel lost and alone. So these could be some of the reasons why I feel the way I feel. Or is it because this Monday it was Blue Monday?

I am looking forward to getting back to writing more. I have enjoyed working on this post. For now, thank you for reading and Stay Blessed!

What is going on?!

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For the past 2 Sundays I was not able to publish a new blog post. And I feel as if I am disappointing the people that read my blog and are following me, as well as myself.

Truth of the matter is that I am still dealing with my Mental Health and thus juggling all that I desire at times is just too hard.

I mentioned this before that at these moments, when I try to do more, really push myself, my mind goes on overdrive and overheats. As a result some tasks then seem too much to complete and I just freeze. These past weeks my Blog had to take the fall…

I do still have enough that I want to share with you. So that is not the point. I have come to a crossroads and I am figuring out how it is that I want to continue, with what tone I want to share my story.

I mentioned before that I started a YouTube Channel, called BlessedAsIAm too. I have been enjoying that journey till now and I would very much like to explore it further.

I just wanted to come here today to apologize and show myself, I am not gone, I haven’t forgotten about you or this platform. I am just figuring things out. If you would like to see my latest video, please click here.

For now,

Stay Blessed

Are We less than…?

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Throughout the years I have had many different reactions to my story, my past, my journey. People close and distant have been understanding, loving, comforting and uplifting. However just like in all aspects of the Universe, there have been those that were the opposite in their approach. Less understanding, less loving, less comforting and less uplifting. Intentionally or not, the way they left me feel was like the title of this blog…less than…

I have had people who didn’t believe in me or my growth. People who outspokenly said my life was not as good as theirs, or even that I could not possibly fulfill a certain life role being the way I was. Even though I know better, I would listen and take it as a truth.

Cause what do I know, being Mentally Ill and what not….

But I am here to tell you today that these are all lies! Untruths that are unnecessarily shared.

The fact that I have my struggles and battles to fight, does not mean I am not able to function or achieve like any other. Truth be told I believe that, the fact that I dare to openly face and overcome my obstacles and find my way into healing, makes me feel extra Powerful, Skilled and Uniquely Me.

And just like Ye said, it is a SuperPower.

Heal Yourself from a loving and compassionate place. Acknowledging that you are Unique, just like everybody else. And that your struggle is one of your Powers that will now lead as a stepping stone and extra drive to see the world through your Unique eyes. And remember keep pushing towards your Mental Wealth!

SO DON’T YOU EVER LET ANYBODY TELL YOU THAT BECAUSE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH STATE YOU ARE “LESS THAN”

Stay Blessed

Please check out my latest video A trip down memory lane on my channel. Appreciate the Love!

Burning Bridges

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This weekend I went on a trip down memory lane. I went to visit an area here in The Netherlands where I used to live.

Every since I moved I always felt this unease when I went back. I would always feel on edge, super anxious and nervous, days before I was supposed to head over there. It was never a placed I looked forward to revisiting.

The same was for this weekend. Sure, meeting up with certain people was something I do enjoy, there has just always been something about that area and part of my life I am not comfortable with.

But finally this weekend I managed to get to the bottom of it and in a way let go of that negative feeling. I found out that whenever I make huge changes, like finishing school, moving cities, changing jobs, I would literally burn bridges. It was something that I taught myself in order to cope with all that was happening. From moving across the world to the sexual abuse to the sense of abandonment from my family. I thought that if I forget all about it, all the hurt won’t be able to touch me anymore.

But how wrong was I! Although I might not remember specific events or conversations, I do remember how it all made me feel. And as I mentioned many times before, I tend to hold myself accountable for every unpleasant thing in my life to an unhealthy extent. It can get so bad that I am not able to see the positive, joyful and loving memories I do have.

This weekend I was able to see things more clearly. And I am so grateful. I learned that I have been taking my “negative” past and the old me way too seriously. I should really stop giving so many fucks! We all make mistakes, we all trip and fall. It’s about the times we get back up again!

If you want to see what I have been up to make sure to check out my YouTube channel. BlessedAsIAm!
https://youtu.be/YZOgv2y3sPA

Changed Perspective

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Like I shared in my last weeks blog Does Something Greater Await Me?, I was looking at one of my tried and trusted mantras in a whole new way.

I had been saying this to myself for years, maybe even decades. Along this one I used to say The best is yet to come.

A few years back I kinda already realized that these statements would not work for me. As you might know I had been doing all these challenges back in 2015/2016. I felt so good crushing my goals. I had created this lifestyle that was benefitting me in all kind of areas. I felt healthy, strong, I was productive, mentally strong and considering, happy for very long periods of time. I literally felt on top of the world.

But…yes…here it comes. Besides having all these challenges I managed to put myself on and successfully so, I had some personal wishes. Deep inside I thought, when I do this, manage to create this type of lifestyle, I will be able to truly be happy and attract&get the things I truly desire.

I couldn’t have been more wrong. After having completed all these challenges and being in the best physical and mental state I had been in decades, I was expecting some type of reward. I was expecting that Greater, that Best. And when it didn’t come the way I expected it too, I was devastated and believed that no matter what I do, I will never gain in life what my heart truly desires. And I fell back, back in my old and self destructing ways…

What I know now is, that Best, that Greater, that Reward is Now! This is the most precious it has and will ever be. As I grow, keep pushing and evolving. Implementing what I have learned and truly enjoying the journey itself, I won’t have to craze my mind with : If I do this, then I will be happy…

From now on NOW will be my key word. I am most powerful right here and right now!

Does Something Greater Await Me?

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Something Greater awaits me I used to say

Today I realized that my Greater and Best lies

in my Now

As I focus on growing, learning, becoming greater with each passing moment

I will never be Greater as I am in my now

I see now that there is no Greater Good than

This very Present Moment!

This mindset pushes me to be the best I can be at the present time, at this very moment

If I fucked up yesterday, do better now

If I fucked up last month,

3 years or 20 years ago

NOW that I know better I will DO better!

Beating myself up won’t change a damn thing

Better put that energy in Doing Better

Acknowledge Embrace Evolve

Getting to know the Real Me

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I truly feel Blessed that I am empowered enough to get to know myself. And that I dare to look and learn to embrace the good, bad and the ugly.

Taking on the Path to Self Knowledge is one of Freedom! There is in my eyes no Greater good than opening your Eyes and Arms to Yourself. And I am just learning to do so.

Learning how to Fully embrace myself, is Learning how to Truly Practice Self Love. And I feel so Blessed that I am giving myself the chance to look within. I am Proud of Me. And I am curious to get to know Me even more and to fully Complete Me.

There is this saying that states that the ones who you love and who in return love you the most are the ones who are capable of hurting you the most. This INCLUDES YOU! You Hurting Yourself. And I, a woman that has seen different types of Evil can say that I have been my own worst enemy!

I no longer wish to treat myself so poorly. So moving forward I will face my trails and tribulations, my highs and my lows with compassion, love and forgiveness.

I call Fucking BS

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Whoop whoop!!! Damn we did it, we made it through another year! We even survived January and its Blue Monday. We may or may not have achieved the goals we had set for 2018. We may have crushed them all. Ooh hail new years resolutions!

We had a whole year to work on that list. What is it that I wish to accomplish, achieve, what did I not do all too well. Where did I drop the ball. What can I continue on doing. And then when December comes, we slowly start to get excited forming a new list. Cause once that month ends, we get a new chance right? We get that one great opportunity to do it over, to start again. Cause that is what it means right, that new year? New Me?

BULL SHIT

Why are we so hung up on these 365 days, these 12 months, these 52 weeks? I understand that we like to measure stuff, put a time line on certain things. But when it comes to improving ourselves, does the date or time line really matter? Isn’t any movement forward the most important thing? So as long as you are doing so, in my eyes you are winning.

I am sorry, not sorry. Did I offend you? The thing that we need to start to believe and see is that every single day is the best day to start over, work on those new goals, improve, let go, open your eyes, forgive, level up! Because if you could not find the best motivation within yourself to do better and become the best YOU you can be on any other day. What makes you think that the first of January or any other month for that matter, will work? The best sources of motivation lie with in yourself! No outer sources can trump that! Never! Cause if they do…you might want to reevaluate your intentions and relationship with yourself. And best believe that the gratification will be tainted and won’t last as long, when the motivation to change is not from within. Satisfaction will not be gained once that goal is achieved. As we must learn to truly enjoy the journey itself!

So tell me, now that that first month of this new year has passed, have you managed to keep that same drive, goal setting mindset. Or maybe March first will do the trick, or better yet 2020…looks good even in writing. What and whenever it is, know that I have complete confidence, that one day will be your day!

13…

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…after 13 days straight. Eating better than well, doing my work outs, waking up early and going to bed early. Filling my days with building this new lifestyle that will serve me on all levels. 13 days straight…day 14 and I no longer can keep the darkness out.

I tried so hard not to fight the darkness. But embrace it and focus on building the new and light instead. But for today I have to call defeat…just for today. I am tired. I just need to catch my breath. Tomorrow is a new day, a new day to keep on building…

Dear little Girl

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Please bare with me while I write this letter to you. I hope the words come out right and are able to do justice to how I feel.

Recently I found this screenshot of an old photo of you. And what I saw hit me like a ton of bricks. All of a sudden I saw YOU, I saw Me and I saw all the Pain.

Not one adult stepped in and did their job of protecting you, therefore I want you to know that I am here for you now. At that age the two people who should have been the most important, loving, guiding, protecting and influential in your life failed you miserably and I am so sorry! I can see now, that the woman who gave birth to you is just as guilty as that so called father that abused you. I am so sorry baby girl, I am so sorry, but I am here now. It is time for you to let go of the burden, you may rest now. I am here, I will be your voice, I will protect you and I will fight for you.

Today I promise you that I will dedicate my life to see you shine, to see you laugh as often as possible and as loud as possible. I will do my very best to protect you from any evil spirit that tries to hurt your soul. Cause little one, you have had enough, and I understand now why you are so tired. You were given a job that you were never supposed to have been introduced to in the first place. But you took it on without complaining because you thought that, was how love and being a child was supposed to be. I cannot even imagine how you managed to do that, all by yourself!

Thank you for making it this far. I salute you! I am here now. I am taking over. It is my time now to make you Proud. You may enjoy the fruits of your hard labor. I see you and I vow to you that I will see you every single day! I love you