Still Blessed

Wow, hello to you all! How have you been?

It has been such a long time, I just went back to look up when my last post was… beginning of May 2019! That is a good 8 months. And a lot has happened, a lot! And to be honest, I am now today, in my week of hibernation and isolation, so looking forward to share with you what exactly went down.

In this blogpost I will be giving an overal update. And in the coming posts I will elaborate more on the key subjects I find that are important for me now.

I have been on sick leave for I believe nearly 18 months now. I would have never thought that when I first got home that it would take this long to recover. The extent of this journey is way more, way deeper rooted then I could have ever imagined. To be fair, I learned that it was a build up of at least 35 years of pain, denial and ignoring. There is no quick fix for that long a negative input. So although this journey has been nothing but easy, I believe it is a transformational one, a very necessary one!

As you would have known I had been having my weekly therapy sessions and I even started doing some work. Not my regular work, but “low intensity” work so I would be able to put more structure in my life, get back to the swing of things and to be honest, get out more. Now my therapy has gone from weekly to biweekly. And I think we are on our way to rounding things up. So that is good news! On top of that I have been going to work more regularly and even switched positions to a place where I am more stimulated in various areas. I am moving around more, amongst a lot of people, sounds and visual stimuli. The first week was challenging, but I managed to get the hang of things and now in general I am doing well.

At home things are pretty well and stable. Surely in comparison. My diet has improved a lot. Cooking is something I got to enjoy again and something I use to help me get out of a funk. Working out and going on my walks are still areas where I could surely improve. More so when I am not feeling well. I have learned a lot about my condition and the mind in general through reading, YouTube and the different therapies I have gotten. The most important thing is that I understand that I have to change my thoughts, habits and routines in order to change my course of life. I cannot go back to the life as I knew it, that will be the death of me. This is the most certain thing that I know, if not the only.

Today, as I briefly mentioned in my intro, I am not doing my best. To be completely transparant, I haven’t left the house in 4 days. I haven’t felt like this in a very long time. I feel paralyzed, numb. I know better, I know what I need to do, but I just cannot get myself to do the things that I know help me get back on track. There have been some changes, I have been working more, therapy is about to end. Besides that, at times I still feel lost and alone. So these could be some of the reasons why I feel the way I feel. Or is it because this Monday it was Blue Monday?

I am looking forward to getting back to writing more. I have enjoyed working on this post. For now, thank you for reading and Stay Blessed!

What is going on?!

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For the past 2 Sundays I was not able to publish a new blog post. And I feel as if I am disappointing the people that read my blog and are following me, as well as myself.

Truth of the matter is that I am still dealing with my Mental Health and thus juggling all that I desire at times is just too hard.

I mentioned this before that at these moments, when I try to do more, really push myself, my mind goes on overdrive and overheats. As a result some tasks then seem too much to complete and I just freeze. These past weeks my Blog had to take the fall…

I do still have enough that I want to share with you. So that is not the point. I have come to a crossroads and I am figuring out how it is that I want to continue, with what tone I want to share my story.

I mentioned before that I started a YouTube Channel, called BlessedAsIAm too. I have been enjoying that journey till now and I would very much like to explore it further.

I just wanted to come here today to apologize and show myself, I am not gone, I haven’t forgotten about you or this platform. I am just figuring things out. If you would like to see my latest video, please click here.

For now,

Stay Blessed

Are We less than…?

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Throughout the years I have had many different reactions to my story, my past, my journey. People close and distant have been understanding, loving, comforting and uplifting. However just like in all aspects of the Universe, there have been those that were the opposite in their approach. Less understanding, less loving, less comforting and less uplifting. Intentionally or not, the way they left me feel was like the title of this blog…less than…

I have had people who didn’t believe in me or my growth. People who outspokenly said my life was not as good as theirs, or even that I could not possibly fulfill a certain life role being the way I was. Even though I know better, I would listen and take it as a truth.

Cause what do I know, being Mentally Ill and what not….

But I am here to tell you today that these are all lies! Untruths that are unnecessarily shared.

The fact that I have my struggles and battles to fight, does not mean I am not able to function or achieve like any other. Truth be told I believe that, the fact that I dare to openly face and overcome my obstacles and find my way into healing, makes me feel extra Powerful, Skilled and Uniquely Me.

And just like Ye said, it is a SuperPower.

Heal Yourself from a loving and compassionate place. Acknowledging that you are Unique, just like everybody else. And that your struggle is one of your Powers that will now lead as a stepping stone and extra drive to see the world through your Unique eyes. And remember keep pushing towards your Mental Wealth!

SO DON’T YOU EVER LET ANYBODY TELL YOU THAT BECAUSE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH STATE YOU ARE “LESS THAN”

Stay Blessed

Please check out my latest video A trip down memory lane on my channel. Appreciate the Love!

Burning Bridges

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This weekend I went on a trip down memory lane. I went to visit an area here in The Netherlands where I used to live.

Every since I moved I always felt this unease when I went back. I would always feel on edge, super anxious and nervous, days before I was supposed to head over there. It was never a placed I looked forward to revisiting.

The same was for this weekend. Sure, meeting up with certain people was something I do enjoy, there has just always been something about that area and part of my life I am not comfortable with.

But finally this weekend I managed to get to the bottom of it and in a way let go of that negative feeling. I found out that whenever I make huge changes, like finishing school, moving cities, changing jobs, I would literally burn bridges. It was something that I taught myself in order to cope with all that was happening. From moving across the world to the sexual abuse to the sense of abandonment from my family. I thought that if I forget all about it, all the hurt won’t be able to touch me anymore.

But how wrong was I! Although I might not remember specific events or conversations, I do remember how it all made me feel. And as I mentioned many times before, I tend to hold myself accountable for every unpleasant thing in my life to an unhealthy extent. It can get so bad that I am not able to see the positive, joyful and loving memories I do have.

This weekend I was able to see things more clearly. And I am so grateful. I learned that I have been taking my “negative” past and the old me way too seriously. I should really stop giving so many fucks! We all make mistakes, we all trip and fall. It’s about the times we get back up again!

If you want to see what I have been up to make sure to check out my YouTube channel. BlessedAsIAm!
https://youtu.be/YZOgv2y3sPA

Changed Perspective

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Like I shared in my last weeks blog Does Something Greater Await Me?, I was looking at one of my tried and trusted mantras in a whole new way.

I had been saying this to myself for years, maybe even decades. Along this one I used to say The best is yet to come.

A few years back I kinda already realized that these statements would not work for me. As you might know I had been doing all these challenges back in 2015/2016. I felt so good crushing my goals. I had created this lifestyle that was benefitting me in all kind of areas. I felt healthy, strong, I was productive, mentally strong and considering, happy for very long periods of time. I literally felt on top of the world.

But…yes…here it comes. Besides having all these challenges I managed to put myself on and successfully so, I had some personal wishes. Deep inside I thought, when I do this, manage to create this type of lifestyle, I will be able to truly be happy and attract&get the things I truly desire.

I couldn’t have been more wrong. After having completed all these challenges and being in the best physical and mental state I had been in decades, I was expecting some type of reward. I was expecting that Greater, that Best. And when it didn’t come the way I expected it too, I was devastated and believed that no matter what I do, I will never gain in life what my heart truly desires. And I fell back, back in my old and self destructing ways…

What I know now is, that Best, that Greater, that Reward is Now! This is the most precious it has and will ever be. As I grow, keep pushing and evolving. Implementing what I have learned and truly enjoying the journey itself, I won’t have to craze my mind with : If I do this, then I will be happy…

From now on NOW will be my key word. I am most powerful right here and right now!

Getting to know the Real Me

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I truly feel Blessed that I am empowered enough to get to know myself. And that I dare to look and learn to embrace the good, bad and the ugly.

Taking on the Path to Self Knowledge is one of Freedom! There is in my eyes no Greater good than opening your Eyes and Arms to Yourself. And I am just learning to do so.

Learning how to Fully embrace myself, is Learning how to Truly Practice Self Love. And I feel so Blessed that I am giving myself the chance to look within. I am Proud of Me. And I am curious to get to know Me even more and to fully Complete Me.

There is this saying that states that the ones who you love and who in return love you the most are the ones who are capable of hurting you the most. This INCLUDES YOU! You Hurting Yourself. And I, a woman that has seen different types of Evil can say that I have been my own worst enemy!

I no longer wish to treat myself so poorly. So moving forward I will face my trails and tribulations, my highs and my lows with compassion, love and forgiveness.

How Am I?

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It has been a while since I last did a real update on how I am doing and where I am in my journey of healing. In For Real For Real I was rather optimistic and feeling solid and sure in my progress and all that came with it. But things change…

In the above mentioned post I wrote about a wave of new emotions that had to do with my traumas. These emotions have been coming and going and at times they can hit me so hard that I am left paralyzed and confused.

I finally got to go to therapy. I was so looking forward to it and as I mentioned in my last update I really felt it was really constructive. Unfortunately I have been having some second thoughts about the therapist and his ways of therapy. Besides dealing with my hurts, I now also have to deal with the doubt whether or not I can continue being under his care.

I am eating a lot better and being more and more consistent with it. And I am happy to notice that I do not have any major cravings for alcohol or any of my former numbing foods. What I am working on now is trying to stick to a consistent work out routine. For the past few weeks whenever I started to feel worse, working out was usually the first thing I would stop doing.

Tomorrow will be my first day of work reintegration. And now, just a day before, I am not sure how to feel about that. To be honest I have had a tough few weeks where the suicidal thoughts have silently found their way back into my mind. They are not a constant, but I sure cannot deny their presence.

I have the feeling that I am slowly loosing it again. But what I would like to think and tell myself is that this feeling I am having, this scary monster that wants to creep in is actually the pain that wants to come out and be released. And so I will just wait and see, take it day by day and try to allow what ever it is be whatever it is….

In the midst of all this I decided to take BlessedAsIAm to YouTube! So please click on the link and have a look at my very first video! Welcome to BlessedAsIAM!