You Were the One

Am I tricking myself, reminiscing on how it used to be, making up stories and unwilling to truly let it be? They say time is a healer, but how much longer do I need? Will I ever be able to talk or think about you without getting emotional? So many factors that can make me see the bare truth and rationalise. We were young, careless and free. Nevertheless, I dare to say that you were the one, my greatest love…

I know you have moved on and found your happiness. And in spite of this all, so have I. Within my journey of being the best that I can be, I am sincerely happy for you.

And still, even with all these facts, thinking about you can cut so deep, at times it even brings tears to my eyes. Is this all because you were my one true love. Because you showed me love was possible in a wickedly beautiful, imperfect way? Is it because you proved to me that I was allowed to love and be loved unconditionally. Is it because at that time, through all the pain, you were the only one that truly touched me and showed me a way out.

I never knew that something so beautiful as love could hurt so ugly. With all that I know now, nothing hurts so deep than love or the lack thereof.

I know I did you wrong, really wrong and I am so sorry for that. Where I used to tell myself that you were not ready for us, I must confess that I was in fact, not ready to receive your unconditional love. The love you gave was so pure, so beautiful, so fresh, so young and clear. And yet, I did not know how to deal with it and return it the way you deserved. It has almost been fifteen years, and deep down those feelings are still present, when will this pass? Don’t get me wrong, I truly cherish every moment that we shared. All the things that you taught me, all the things you offered and all the love you gave. But I can’t help to wonder, are all these emotions that I feel based on an illusion, have I wrongly stored what was in a memory way too beautiful? Am I reminiscing it all more intense than it really was. Is my heart truly playing these tricks? Is the love that I feel, the love I had for you, or is it the love I have for how you made me feel?

I strongly believe that as long as you are true to yourself, honest about what really is, all can be revealed and answered. So what is it…Am I too afraid to see that it was all a dream. Am I only hoping that it was as pure as my memory shows me. Whatever the outcome may be, I do thank you for I have now known a love so deep! I know that I can love and be loved on a level that exceeds all. No matter when or how this will happen, I trust that that love will once again be, with a soul as Blessed as I am today.

 

 

I Used to…

I USED TO…
Almost marking 90 days of sobriety.
There have been moments where I longed for that drink. That one glass to take the edge off. Or even that one zip to taste that gorgeous wine, funky G&T or refreshing beer. Some of these moments I desired that drink to celebrate, at times just to get away of it all, to destress or clear my mind. But I haven’t budged, not even for one drink or one zip! I did sniff on some, that I am guilty of…
What kept me strong all these days was knowing why I was doing it. I truly was keeping my eye on the price. Even if that prize at times seemed so unimportant or not worth it. I always had the choice: “do I drink now and enjoy that temporary feeling, the risk of taking it too far and waking up with that ever numbing hangover. Or do I say no to the temptation, keep a clear mind, enjoy the moment and my (own) company with my full senses and wake up the next day without any regrets or that damned hangover?” I always chose the latter. And I am grateful for that.

I have been sober for a long period of time before. But never with the awareness that I have now, never with the maturity that I have grown in, never with the self love that I have now mastered. I already was on a great journey of amazing self discoveries, self love and self acceptance. These 90 days have in addition taught me that I can be the best me that I can possibly be. That I have the power to steer my thoughts to empowerment and positivity, that I have the skills to grow and learn every waking moment. That I truly am worthy of self love, love and acceptance. And the best thing is that I am all this without the help of any substance. I used to think that I would feel better with alcohol, that I would enjoy an evening out more, that that steak surely tasted better with a certain wine. I thought that I would fit in more.

I am so happy that I know better now!
I don’t need alcohol or drugs to turn up. I am more than enough. Just the way I am, I am a strong woman, that has a lot to offer, a beautiful young woman that is blessed enough to know that no matter what my past has been, or how thankful I am with all that I have gained, Greater things await me!