Are you tired of hearing that you just need to keep on going, try harder and do more? Are you tired of all the doing that you lost your sense of direction for your life and more importantly, that connection with yourself?
You graduated from your psychotherapy treatment not too long ago. Your whole life you have been a hard worker, going from goal to goal. Reaching and achieving higher and higher. Working hard is not strange to you. However, for quite some time now you have been feeling exhausted, questioning if all the hard work of your healing and mental health journey was worth it. You feel stuck and rather lost. “Is this really how it is supposed to be?”…you ask yourself. You start doubting yourself and wonder if you are suffering from what they call ‘expectation hangover’. Where you used to hide behind your hard work and achievements, you now no longer can ignore the disconnect. After years of operating in survival mode, what you did so masterfully, you managed to create a good life. But is it your life?
” I have graduated psychotherapy, what now Kaley?”
I for one can tell you, after over 20 years of experience in and out of all sorts of counseling, treatments and psychotherapy, that more often than not, the real work starts after your graduation. And that is right where it can be so crucial to get extra guidance. Maximizing the momentum you built during your treatment and healing journey, to now start building and stepping into new ways of being and creating your life. Letting the thriver within you take centre stage.
A life where you fully get to choose how to design it based on your values and desires and not your fears or old patterns, habits and beliefs that no longer serve you.
What’s next you ask? “You have come to the right place!”
I will guide you into being more, so you can do and have more of what you truly want. Move away from survival mode and get into creating and living a life of more ease, fulfillment, joy and alignment with your personal core values.
When it comes to being coached I sincerely believe it is all about you, what you need. At the end of the day it is your life that we are seeking to deepen and transform by uncovering and getting rid of all the layers that no longer serve you.
I am here to facilitate that process and guide you to all that is already within you.
In life, falling into patterns and habits that on the surface look like they are good, may not actually be serving you on the long haul. It can lead to waking up to a life that is good, but is it also good for you?
It is time to stop creating a life by default!
Knowing what makes you tick in the form of identifying your core values is one of the most powerful ways to start any transformational journey. These core values serve as your guideline to keep you aligned to what is true to you and your desires.
During my training at The Transformational Embodiment Institute I was taught a fun and very effective values elicitation process. When you decide to work with me, we will go through this process together and I will guide you from start to finish.
However if you want to get started now, I provided this very powerful process as a free gift that you can access and start right now!
Work with me
As your Thrive Coach, creating a safe space that works for you and supports your transformation is what I am here for and what is at the centre of us working together.
That being said, nothing works unless you do. Your success and transformation is a combination of finding what works for you, connecting with the right coach and most importantly your attitude towards being coached and doing the work. If you are looking for fixed, guaranteed promises and quick fixes. I am not the coach for you. I believe in doing the work, getting uncomfortable and where necessary digging deep. And at the base believing that there is always a way and giving up is not an option.
You have already come so far!
When you decide you are ready, after our initial acquaintance we will work on defining what it is you want to work on. This however may change during our time together as it sometimes happens that subjects arise that need more attention.
We will work together for a minimum of 12 weeks with the combination of 1:1 coaching calls, practices and supportive content.
As a Transformational Embodiment Coach graduate I am trained and certified in multiple modalities to provide a more holistic approach to your journey. Real transformation is not just a mental facet, through different practices e.g breath work, EFT, you will be able to create lasting embodied changes.
At the end of our time together you will:
- Have more clarity
- Know how to put into action, integrate and implement insights and awarenesses
- Learn new ways of being
- Have a deeper sense of ease, joy, freedom, fulfillment and surrendering
- Gain more trust in yourself, the process, your toolbox
- Have learned how to tap into your own greatness and inner knowing
The coaching provided is virtual, 1:1 and over the course of a minimum of 12 weeks. Within this time period you will have direct access to me through Virtual Video Calls, Voxer voice and text messaging and unlimited email.
The written coaching materials are all in English, however as I am also fluent in Dutch, the actual calls can be in Dutch too if you so desire.
Book you free discovery call today and learn more about what working together could look like!
" I have learned that you should not go through life with a catchers mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back"
- Maya Angelou -
" The best is yet to come and something greater awaits me"
- BlessedAsIAm -
How it all began
BlessedAsIAm stared out as a blog in 2015 as a way for me to get out of a downward spiral I kept finding myself in. In writing I found an outlet to better word and understand all that was going on in my heart, mind and body. From the start I have always been open about my childhood traumatic experiences. One of which being sexually abused for nearly a decade until I was about 13 years old. Even with all that I had been through, I believed and still believe that I am Blessed, just the way I am. And so are you!
Over the years I had been in and out of counseling and psychotherapy. Trying so many different types to help me cope with whatever was going inside of me. However, I always found myself back at that place of exhaustion from all the doing and quite frankly running away. I never felt fully understood. And if I was getting help that felt good, it always felt as if it barely scratched the surface.
This is until I hit one of my lowest lows almost 4 years ago. It seemed like I had it all. The house, the job, the material things and the social life. Yet I never felt so down, empty, exhausted and powerless. I came to the point where I felt like there was no way out other than ending my life. Even though deep down my life mantras " The best is yet to come" and " Something greater awaits you", were still there, I was on the verge of giving up.
I was no longer fit to do my job, or anything for that matter. I was afraid to leave my house. Being outside, in an other environment than my own home, was more stimuli than I could handle. For months my daily routine was moving from my bed to the couch and back again. Numbing myself with Netflix, food and alcohol. I believe I saw all of Breaking Bad in one weekend.
My way back up started on YouTube, when I stumbled on a video on personal development. From that moment I was hooked. Learning about how to grow, neuroscience to quantum physics, law of attraction to stoicism. Learning from spiritual teachers, experts, survivors and scientist. I really immersed myself in anything that could help me better understand my mind and how I got where I was.
Together with my new found energy and being diagnosed with ComplexPTSD and Clinical Depression with suicidal thoughts, I finally got the specialized treatment that I needed.
With all my personal experience and drive to understand and optimize our human experience, I knew that I could help many others find their way back to being their truest and highest expression of self. In 2020 after in-house training, I started as a freelance lifestyle coach for a fitness and wellness brand. I successfully guided dozens of clients towards their goals. Simultaneously I was building my own Life Coach practice. And in the summer of 2021 I graduated as a Transformational Embodiment Coach at The Transformational Embodiment Institute.
Thrive Coach transforming you from survivor to thriver. Guiding you in your post psychotherapy phase to self reliance with confidence, self-trust and excitement.
With gratitude I use a treasure chest of my own personal history of intense growth work and transformation. I have been through several traumatic and challenging times in my life as well as decades of deep inner work. This through counseling, psychotherapy, training, coaching and life itself. A combination that makes me unique and highly capable of coaching you with dedication and authenticity.
My joy in this work is to see you shine as the bright light that you are! Always meeting you where you are and expanding your awareness from there and beyond.
There is always a way. From a young age I was always described as being optimistic, solution focused and not one to give up easily. Qualities that have enriched my private and professional life tremendously.
For a good 17 years I was a flight attendant at KLM. This year I decided to leave my job as a Purser (chief flight attendant). After nearly two decades of flying around the world, visiting the most amazing and unexpected places, I felt it was time to live a different life, to experience new things. I longed for more freedom, more fulfillment, more autonomy and in a way more structure. It was one of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make. Ask anyone in the airline industry, it is not a job, it is a lifestyle.
I am so grateful for all the wonderful years I had up in the skies and foreign places. Learning special skills, meeting new people, eating delicious foods, living out of my suitcase and being jet lagged. I appreciate it all. It all adds to the enrichment of my life and me as a person.
*I was born in Zimbabwe
* I have several sailing certificates
* I know how to both ski and snowboard (I prefer the latter)
* I love anything with words: reading, listening, talking & writing
* I am fluent in English and Dutch
* I also speak French
* I used to be a tourist for a living
* I love to cook
* I am very sensitive for injustice
* I am kind of afraid of creepy crawlies
* I have a subscription to the movie theatre
* I am an Advanced Open Water Diver
* I may not be very tall, yet I have big dreams for myself and the collective